If there is pain and you really experience the hurt the other person it would stop hurting you. You could do this and see. With your doing you are only speculating. Therefore you never do it. So please do it and discover for yourself what happens.
Suppose a tiger were to be chasing you and there is fear and you experience that fear - you know what will happen? The tiger will stop dead in its tracks. It won`t pounce on you.
That`s why Ramana or somebody else can actually play with tigers but if you go and play you would end up in the tigers belly. But Ramana - when he used to go for walks [he] used to tell his followers to keep a distance because he could have touched tigers, leopards, snakes and nothing would happen. Because he has got no fear. But seeing that if you would go it is dangerous. With you the same tiger would respond differently. So, you do it then you see what happens. The Angulimala was helpless before the Buddha. People used to be terror sick [terrified] the moment they even heard the name Angulimala - you know. But Angulimala was helpless when the Buddha came face to face. So the Buddha has no fear. So you do it and see what happens. With these things must be done - you know. There`s no point in thinking about them or speculating. That`s no use. This is not a kind of dharma talk. This is a do-it-yourself dharma. Do it and see.
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