Suffering cannot end, merely by knowing the pain or hurt. It must be concorded with forgiveness |
Suffering cannot end, merely by knowing the pain or hurt. It must be concorded with forgiveness. Read on what bhagvan says?
If one doesn't forgive, one carries the other person inside and the other person is controlling one's life, though one is physically faraway. When one is not able to forget the situation or the person, one whatever might be trying to do, the past keeps continuously haunting and as a result one looses peace of mind again and again. Consequently, one 'll not be able to carry on works efficiently. It can be seen as a way there occurs "failure of intelligence". Also, when one has an intense charge, strangely, one 'll meet the same kind of people wherever one goes, until and unless the charge is gone. For example: "Omi" hates people who are angry and very critical (simply, he has a charge). In his life he will meet people who are short tempered and critical. So, until Omi has completed his learning, life keeps throwing similar situations or people on his way.
"Hum....Understood, but how do we forgive, I meant, any trick? " Well, once anybody has experienced the pain or hurt in its totality, the pain would disappear and forgiveness happens. "Pain...experience ...in totality??? How to do that???" Not by escaping pain, justifying hurt, being indifferent to suffering, etc., but by experiencing the pain just as it is. To experience the pain, one has to relate to it in all its rawness and nakedness. It is there and that's it. Absolutely no excuses or justification for it's presence in one's life. It is only in such a perspective that one can actually experience the pain. In this process, hence, forgiveness is a happening when one experiences the pain fully. "Shouldn't we be practical? Say, somebody cheats Omi, is it that Omi has to simply suffer and forgive?" Forgiveness is an internal process. It should not be confused with the practical actions one may have to take, in the external world. What Omi needs to do is to experience the hurt and anger within him. As he experiences, he comes to peace with himself and hence would spontaneously respond to the external situation without any inner grudge or judgment. One has to remember that any action coming out of hurt or judgment can only lead to more miserable situations. Thus, while suffering a situation internally, one can be very functional in the external world as well. "Aah, teaching is simply great, thank you very much, it looks like an automated process, isn't it?" Nope! It is not enough if one knows this intellectually. The teaching has to be implemented in one's real life. Initially, it may be a little difficult, however, one needs to get the hang of its, that's all, one will enjoy doing the same forever. "Ahem !!! Got it. :) " As the external world is only a reflection of the internal world, intense feelings like hurt or hatred result in financial problems, health problems and failures in life. Knowing the grave loss one incur with lack of forgiveness, one could understand the necessity of forgiveness. Wherever there is forgiveness, miracles are natural happenings, the doors of Grace are always opened. However, one should not do it in the expectation of a miracle. I wish we all get a natural state of forgiveness
