Monday, January 12, 2009

Setting Right Relationships With The Parents - Key Of Success

Bhagavan about setting right relationships with the parents;
Relationships : Trying to understand a relationship would never help. Trying to understand is like peeling an onion; you can go on peeling, peeling, and peeling, there is nothing to it. You must learn the art of experiencing the other.

If you learn to experience your husband or your wife, there is no greater joy, on this planet. But the problem is that you do not know how to experience human beings; you do not feel connected.

If you know how to experience your wife, if your wife were to nag you or to scream or yell, that would be most beautiful. Similarly, when your husband also bothers you, if you can see and experience that, it becomes joy.

That is the only way you can set right your relationships, because then it becomes a source of joy.

The setting right of relationships with your parents is of the utmost importance.
That has priority.
Only after that comes the service aspect.

All relationships reflect the relationship with your parents.
They reflect exactly what has happened between you and your parents.
Once this is set right, everything falls into place.
And life is relationship. So what happens is, life also reflects these relationships.
That is why, if you have a terrible relationship with your father, you most likely have financial problems, because life would reflect that.
If it’s a very bad relationship with your mother, then you have needless obstacles; that is how life would reflect it, because life is relationship.
Anybody who is having a terrible financial problem, set right your relationship with your father, and you will see there is an immediate improvement.
And if you are having needless obstacles, set right the relationship with your mother, and you will see immediately improvement.
This can be experimentally verified.

All that we are talking about can actually be verified at the ground level.

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Contemplative Questions

Here is a set of questions that would provoke you and put you through some soul searching. They are not about religion nor about ethics. They are merely about you.

They are not meant to serve as solutions nor are they meant to lead you anywhere. These questions are meant to serve as tools to discovering yourself.

1) Do you perceive the Presence of a benevolent force guiding, protecting and shaping your life? What name do you give that Presence? When did you best feel this Presence?

2) What is your opinion of God? Is your opinion drawn from religion, books, parents and or your personal experience of life?

3) Do you pray? Do they get answered? How often?

4) Do you think it is possible to relate to the Divine? What relationship would you opt?

5) Here is a story for you - Two fierce enemies once did a penance to placate god and receive boons vying with each other. God appeared to the first man and asked what he wanted. He said "give me twice of whatever you give my enemy". Then God appeared to the second one. Even before God could say anything he asked, "God, would you please tell me what my enemy asked for? On knowing his prayer request, he said, "then God, blind me in one eye."
Now what would you wish for yourself, your best friend and your worst enemy if God gave you a chance?

6) Have you ever experienced a coincidence or chance that seems to have involved so many people and factors that you can't stop wondering if a mastermind was behind this operation? If yes, do you savour the experience often and have you shared it with someone close to you?